Let’s talk about love
I’ve been a world traveler for many years. I’ve been to over 20 countries and been an expat in two. Suffice it to say I’ve seen a lot. As I climbed into my 30’s I began to realize that man-whoring around the world just wasn’t cutting it for me anymore. As I state in my survival guide gay dating is tough as it is.
Now add that most guys that approach you just want money and you can imagine how tough love can be. That being said it’s not impossible.
Please don’t settle for a gold digger
There’s this misconception that finding love is easy in South East Asia and its just not true. Finding sex is incredibly easy, even finding someone to spend time with you in exchange for some cash is easy but love? No that’s tough. A lot of guys just figure ‘well its better than nothing’ but nothing can be further from the truth: Here’s why you shouldn’t settle for a gold digger:
A gold digger may spread his legs in the beginning but you’ll notice it getting harder and harder to get him to put out , He’ll always have excuses on why he can’t have sex with you. Finally when you threaten to end the relationship he’ll acquiesce but you’ll know his heart isn’t in it.
A gold digger will never stop asking for money and the requests will get larger and larger. A smart gold digger starts small but then his financial woes will begin to escalate until finally he’s literally asking you for thousands of dollars. A acquaintance here in the Philippines bragged to me that he got a German guy to buy him a house.
A gold digger will spend less and less time with you. The goal is every gold digger is to get as much money as possible with as little effort as possible. In the beginning he may spend a lot of time with you like a true partner would but then you’ll start getting excuses on why he can’t come over or why he has to stay at his mom’s house. This despite the fact that it was his idea to move in right away in the first place.
A gold digger is laughing at you behind your back. A gold digger is showing his friends all the text messages you’re sending him professing your love. He’s brandishing the money transfer receipts as momentoes of his deceitful accomplishments. He’s mocking your pleas for attention and affection when you’re not around.
A gold digger will drain you and move on. Once your money is gone so too will he be.
Finally and most importantly a gold digger doesn’t love you. He’ll never love you and you deserve better than that. You can buy his time, even his body, but you can never buy his love.
Date around your age
I get it. That young smooth (but legal!) body is hard to resist but honestly how much do you and an 19-22 year old have in common? Could you keep up with him at the club? Do you even want to try? Your best bet at getting a genuine relationship is to get someone at least relatively close to your age
Make them pay their share
If you don’t want to be a sugar daddy then don’t be one. Tell him from jump he needs to pay for at least some of his expenses when you guys go out. Why should he live with you for free? He’s able bodied he can work and he can contribute. 50/50 is unrealistic in most cases but why not 60/40 or even 70/30? Whatever the split is he needs to be contributing in some way and no spreading his legs isn’t the contribution I’m talking about. If you’re paying for 100% of the expenses I guarantee you that’s the reason he’s in the relationship. Whenever I start talking to a guy I make it crystal clear that he’s not going to be living with me for free. Once they see I’m serious about that the gold diggers disappear pretty quickly.
Don’t be a dick
Some ‘victims’ came here to SE Asia looking for a young sex object then get shocked when they’re treated like an atm machine. Just because they’re mostly poor it doesn’t mean they’re dumb. You’re not the first tourist they’ve encountered. They know the game or they’ve heard stories of their friends being promised a green card and getting scammed. If your intentions are not good you increase your chances of being scammed. Karma’s a bitch ain’t it? Frankly there is no reason to scam for sex. Sin is cheap in SE Asia. Why prey on the hopes and dreams of a desperate person?
Also I know its easy to get bitter after you’ve been scammed but realize not every guy that is interested in you is a gold digger. Give them a chance. You’ll know pretty quickly into the ‘relationship’ what his true intentions are. You being a bitter dick is only going to drive away the legitimate guys.
Don’t give up!
Gay dating abroad Never Before Savings on First Class Airfares. Get up to $100 Off* with Code FC100 is a numbers game. Yes maybe the first 10 guys that approach you will just want your money but so what? You only need one that is sincere and you get along with well. There are a plethora of guys here that are genuinely seeking love and age is not important. Just like its tough for you its tough for them too especially for bottoms. Most bottoms are attracted to straight men and some straight men take advantage of that. That’s why many bottoms will go for someone much older than them.