Here’s a secret:
No amount of relationship advice will help you get the loving fulfilling relationship that you deserve if you don’t have the power over your own mind!
Sadly, we gay men have serious problems with self-discipline and control.
Gay Men Are:
- 2 times more likely to smoke cigarettes
- 3 times more likely to suffer from depression than the general population.
- 5 times more likely to attempt suicide than straight men.
- 10 times more likely to use heroin
- 12 times more likely to use meth
This is, of course, no surprise to most gay men reading this. Lets be frank sometimes being gay really sucks. We face lack of familial acceptance, societal prejudice, and additional employment barriers that our heterosexual counterparts don’t face.
No wonder we turn to substances, some of us are catty, and/or we don’t communicate either each other well!
The good news is it doesn’t have to be this way…
Control your life by conquering your mind!
Think about it! Almost all of our problems in life germinate from a lack of mental discipline!
- You didn’t get the promotion because you didn’t have the will to go the extra mile on your job.
- Your business didn’t succeed because you partied on Saturday when you should’ve been hustling
- You’re overweight because you can’t say no to that ‘low fat’ yogurt on Wednesday
- You got chlamydia because you didn’t want to wear a condom when you fucked that random guy from the club
- You lost all of your money at the casino because you didn’t know when to quit
- That guy you really liked stopped taking you seriously because you gave up the goodies too quickly
What do all of these things have in common? You knew that you’d be better off had you not done them but you didn’t have the discipline to resist the temptation!
You want to know the true secret to success?
It’s not money, skin color, gender, or even intelligence! The secret to success is the ability to forego short term pleasures for long term gains!
In other words the secret to success is discipline!
Without discipline you’ll never achieve any sort of significant financial, weight loss, or success in getting a relationship. Mental discipline is the core of achieving any of your goals!
Reality is an illusion!
Maybe you’re thinking that you already knew this. Maybe you’ve even tried to instill more discipline but,ironically, due to lack of discipline failed.
Here’s what most people do to build discipline…
- The newbies:
The newbies will just try to focus more. They may even succeed for a few days or even a few weeks but eventually the temptation overwhelms them and they revert right back to their old decrepit ways.
- The amateurs:
The amateurs are beginning to understand that to control their minds they need to alter their consciousness. Therefore they will try simple meditation and maybe begin attending religious services (Buddhism is in vogue at the moment).
While amateurs on the right track its not even close to what is needed to bring their minds under control!
- The pros:
The pros who are self discipline are those who understand that meditation and spirituality are just the beginning of controlling your mind, not the end.
You see the pros understand that what we call reality is merely an illusion created by the neurons in our brains! Once they realize that we are living in a hallucination they understand that consciousness can be controlled!
“Your mind…is not in your head. Your head is in your mind.”
Watch this TED Talk on ‘reality’ being an illusion
We create our reality
To put it simply we create our reality and ‘reality’ often conforms to our own expectations. We even unconsciously conform to the expectations of others.
Years ago there was a famous experiment done by Jane Elliot a school teacher in Iowa. She told her students that kids with blue eyes are dumber than brown eyed students and don’t perform as well.
She then gave an exam and sure enough the blue eyed children performed worse than the brown eyed students. Later she said she made a mistake and that the reverse was true.
She gave another exam and surprisingly the brown eye students performed worse than the blue eyed students!
We can extrapolate that to today’s society. For example, African Americans are socialized to believe that they’re dumb, hyper sexual, violent, but good at sports and music.
While Asian Americans are socialized to believe they’re good at math and science, submissive, and bad at sports.
Low and behold you see both groups conforming to those stereotypes!
There was a study done by the Williams Institute in UCLA where gay Asians described sex with other Asians are ‘boring’ and ‘mechanical’ while the Black participants described sex with other Blacks as ‘hot’ and ‘wild’.
However! The way to fight this isn’t through the hyper politically correctness that our culture seems to be embracing!
Censoring and punishing people who dare to say stereotypes that are founded in truth isn’t the way to solve the problem it just sweeps it under the rug. Frankly it doesn’t even do that well either.
Many gay men decline to date Asian and Black men because of those stereotypes and putting a zipper on their mouths hasn’t changed that fact either, sadly.
The rudimentary form of change
Now that we’ve established that consciousness is merely an accepted illusion the next question is how do we change our consciousness?
The most rudimentary way to realize that we control our own realities.
15 Minute Manifestation is a great program to help you with this.
Lets say your’re about to meet a hookup you met off grindr. You’re nervous. Maybe he wasn’t all that great looking but he was the only one that was within 500 feet so you went with it.
How do you think that hookup is going to go?
Chances are pretty bad right?
Your nervousness is going to make him inevitably nervous as well. You think lowly of his appearance so unconsciously you’re going to tell him that through your involuntary body language.
So of course the hookup won’t go well because you sabotaged it in your own mind! You created the reality that the hookup is going to go badly.
Now instead lets imagine the same hookup but this time you think. “Well I agreed to this so I’m gonna make this the best fuck I’ve had in a long time!”
Chances are high the hookup will go a lot better than it would’ve in the first scenario right?
Your involuntary body language will be much more positive right? He’s more likely to respond to that and unconsciously put in the extra effort to make it a good hookup!
What if you already knew this but you’re still not where you want to be with your weight or your relationship? That’s because just like when you tried to stop eating so much it takes discipline to maintain a positive reality!
The best way to make real change is in….
So what the best way to get that discipline? Jesus Christ gave us the solution!
Omg a bible thumper!
No! You needn’t be religious for this to help you!
The thing is in order to get true manifestation you must go through a process which can take years, decades, or even a lifetime!
But not anymore…
You see these metaphysical teachings of Jesus Christ were actually removed from the Bible by the Counsel of Cannon because they thought that it would be too dangerous if people understood that they didn’t need a priest to fulfill their spiritual desires.
The good news is that Benjamin Malcolm was able to compare the Bible with modern day science to realize what Jesus is trying to explain about the universe for people to know the truth and allows to learn whatever you want in your life for having a meaningful life.
So he created The Quantum Manifestation Code to enable to achieve your heart desires by following a step by step guide to get unlimited abundance and understand how to heal ourselves as well as manifesting your dreams using quantum science.
Here you will get chance to understand how the Christ wants to mold our mind to attract universal power with the scientific concept and taught you some secrets which are coinciding with our daily life to become a smartest and successful people in this world.
With modern methods, scientists help people to view the changes of the universe at the smallest level, and it is based on the Quantum Manifestation Code to know the secret of using Quantum Superposition to make everything as possible at the same time.
Use this link to download a free copy of Manifesting Success With God to get better idea about manifestation and the teachings of Jesus!
What does the program teach?
- It shows how to find a burning passion that feelings inspired by faith and discipline are the keys to Christ-like strength. Most of the people still don’t have an idea to see their love, but when you start using his program sure, you will find the clear way to move forward without any obstacles.
- It shows how to embody your best life to help you by achieving your passion in a meaningful way, and know the true meaning of the whole world filled with positive energy and vibrations.
- It helps you learn how to make your intentions are real on the surface by activating God power that should be revealed in this world.
- A step-by-step process for recognizing the ability to reveal reality and true way to control your life immediately.
- Here you can learn how to increase vibrations to make powerful changes in the world, and the most important thing is how to love yourself to realize the power of the universe.
- The power of gratitude and the incredible power of radical authenticity supports to make sure that creation is always sending more blessings in your way at all the time.
- While using this program, you can learn how to take advantage of your inner creativity and not to miss the massive flood of artistic skills that you never knew before.
If you really want to fundamentally change for the better and create a better life for yourself whether it be getting a husband, losing weight, or achieve financial success this is something that I highly recommend.
Your manifestation journey begins here!
You can begin your manifestation journey with these simple exercises.
Visualize with a dream board.
Create something called a dream board. A dream board is just a cork board that you can get at any story where you post photos of your dreams. It must be in a conspicuous place that you walk past every single day. Most people use their bedroom or next to their front door.
Example: You want to get married. So you post a wedding photo on your dream board. This will keep it in your mind so you can manifest that dream into reality.
Choose a few positive affirmations and repeat them every day.
Example: “Love is coming my way” or “I am in a happy relationship”.
Regular mindfulness practice will help you reach peace of mind and wellbeing, greater focus, and a more positive outlook on life.
Example: Sit down in a comfortable position, close your eyes and focus on your breath. Keep your mind from wandering. Start with 2-5 minutes of meditation a day.
Brainwave entrainment is a scientifically proven way to influence your conscious awareness. It will help you achieve a state of intense mental focus needed to manifest your dreams into reality.
Example: Download a brainwave entrainment audio program and listen to it to learn and experience its brain enhancing benefits.
This is similar to a gratitude list, but it is an expanded version and you can also add all the things that you are looking forward to.
Example: “I lost 5 pounds last week!” or “I get to see my buddy from college this Saturday!”.