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Where Are The Gays on eHarmony? Click Here to Find out

Many people love eHarmony because its extensive questionnaire and other security features make sure almost everyone on the site is serious about finding a partner that could lead to something special. However, when you go into the site you’ll see there’s nothing for LGBT members seeking a partner. The good news, that’s simply not true.

Does eHarmony Have Dating Dating? YES!

If you identify as Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender or any other queer identity eHarmony’s got you covered. The website for us is Compatible It’s the eharmony for gay guys and girls. 

eHarmony (Compatible Partners) Review

We all know that being gay and single ain’t easy. I’ve been on Grindr for years and while it did satisfy my corporeal needs it was terribly lacking in people that were serious. I went to OkCupid and while it was better I was still finding myself having to dig through a lot of dirt to get gold. Then while on the phone with my BFF he suggested going to a paid dating site. He told me people who are paying are more likely to be serious and have a stable job. I figured ‘why not’ and started searching. I really liked the matching system of OkCupid so eharmony’s for gay guys website Compatible Partners was the obvious next logical step for me.

Compatible Partners Review: Lots of Questions

First, you have to enter your basic information and then go through a survey. Unlike before you don’t have to do the whole 40-minute survey to get started. There you’ll answer some questions about what you like and how you perceive the world. I did the whole survey because I wanted to get the best matches.

There are multiple types of questions that appear on this compatible partners test. The most common survey questions are of the ‘scale’ variety. These questions ask you to rate the importance of something from a scale of 1 to 7. 1 reflects  ‘not important, none, rarely, etc.’ and 7 reflects the opposite end with ‘very important, always, strongly agree, etc.’ The next type is known popularly as ‘multiple-choice’ where you can choose one or more answers to reflect your views and opinions. In addition, there is also ‘true or false’, questions as well as short ‘text’ questions, which requires you to write a short answer of around twenty words or more.

There’s no denying it takes a while to complete the survey but for me, this is a strong point because again it weeds out those who aren’t serious.

After the Compatible Partners Test…

After finally finishing the survey I got to see my matches. It matched me with about 20 guys but many of them were kind of far (as in order 15 miles away). Which leads me to my biggest grievance with the site–there weren’t as many options as I’d like. However, that could be because I’m a fairly ‘unique’ individual. Plus once you get done weeding and weeding there just isn’t that much left considering gay men make up 3% of the population or less.  Despite the limited options I went ahead and paid for a basic plan.

How Much Does Compatible Partners Cost?

Compatible Partners pricing is split into two tiers which they call a basic plan and a ‘total connect’ plan.  Check their current pricing.

Basic Plan Cost (US Dollars)

  • 1 month for $59.95
  • 3 months for $39.95 a month. Billed in one installment of $119.85, this is a 33% Savings
  • 6 months for $29.95 a month. Billed in one installment of $179.70, this is a 50% Savings
  • 12 months for $19.95 a month. Billed in one installment of $239.40, Best Value, save 67% off of the monthly rate.

Total Connect Plan Cost (US Dollars)

  • 3 months for $44.95 a month. Billed in one installment of $134.85
  • 6 months for $33.95 a month. Billed in one installment of $203.70, this is a 24% Savings
  • 12 months for $23.95 a month. Billed in one installment of $287.40, this is a 47% Savings

‘RelyID’, a feature where you can get your membership information verified and to see other members who have also been verified. In other words it makes sure the person you’re talking to is who he says he is. This is quite an important security feature in my opinion.

‘Secure Call’ is a pretty cool feature, which allows you to make anonymous calls to other members from your personal phone number but without the other person knowing your number or location.

If you’re not satisfied with the basic personality profile, the Total Connect plan allows you to have access to a premium personality profile which is even more in-depth and extensive; thereby giving you the chance to receive matches with an even higher level of compatibility.

As you can see this isn’t the cheapest site out there and you get what you pay for. If you’re just looking to get dick pics and empty flirtation then go on grindr for free but if you want a good service to help you find your soul mate then this is a good option. For those really concerned with security the RevID service that comes with the total connect service is totally worth it. That means the site has verified that the person you are talking to is who he says he is.

My Outcome

Unlike most dating sites where you have to sift through countless profiles to find a match, they take care of that part for you. They send you matches every day and you decided whether or not to message them. Now I’m not going to lie and say the guy of my dreams messaged me immediately and we’re making plans to walk down the aisle. But after a week in a half, I messaged a nice young man named Anton. He was a  Filipino systems analyst and looking for something real.

He’s a nerd just like me and even though he’s not the hottest guy I’ve laid eyes on I think he is what the universe has sent for me. Let’s be honest I probably won’t be on the cover of any beauty magazines either. We’re taking it slowly but surely and we’re both pretty happy so far. I think that’s the best part of this experience. I didn’t get the hot adonis millionaire, instead, I got the right guy for me.

Related: Best Dating Sites For Guys Who Are Serious

Is Compatible Partners Worth It?

For me yes it was worth it since I was actually ready to settle down and have a serious relationship without the drama. That being said if you’re just looking for a fling or friend with benefits that doesn’t really know what he wants then I would go with OkCupid instead. If you’re just looking for a romp then, of course, Grindr is the app of choice. You can use this link to see your matches for free.

Who Owns eHarmony?

eharmony was founded by Neil Clark Warren, a clinical psychologist, with his son-in-law. Warren and his son-in-law created Neil Clark Warren & Associates, a seminar company, in 1995. The company eventually became the dating website eharmony. In 2018, German mass media company ProSiebenSat. Media purchased eharmony via their Nucom e-commerce division (a joint venture of ProSiebanSat and private equity firm General Atlantic). 

Eharmony Phone Number

The phone number to reach eHarmony and Compatible Partners is 1 (844) 544-3173. You may also email them using this link and clicking ‘about compatible partners’.

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